[ale] Problem with Earthlink's mail server

[cfowler at outpostsentinel.com (Christopher Fowler)]

MY mail relay is having a serious problem with Earthlink's mail server. 
In the old days a remote mail server would accept a file larger than
allowed and then send a bounceback to the sender.  Earthlink does not do
that.  It terminates the connection.  This causes sendmail to think
there is a problem and then reties constantly.  Do you know what this
does to the upload on a DSL connection.  My relay is on a RH 7.2 box and
I'm finding myself setting the limit at the server no to 3M's just so
this does not eat up my bandwidth.  Is there another alternative?